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but sometimes (all the time?) there are mixes of feelings/"pay offs" and not only that but they change over time. after a minute, like anon points to, there's the "i've invested enough in this to keep doing it even though it hurts", which can be bad, but doesn't have to be (although usually it means that someone's gotten bored/uncreative, which usually means that not much good can come out of it, but again, doesn't have to!). my point is that it's frequently not clear whether something has stopped being worth the effort or not. i went to a reading group because i wanted to read different things and talk about them. i stopped doing the readings (even though that meant i didn't get as much out of the group), but i learned a lot about people and how to talk. unforeseen consequences, right?
i dunno either.