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probably pretty obvious but I like to lean in to the conflict. it's a bit like slash and burn agriculture, some of my better insights came out of really ugly, messy disagreements and I'm not talking about the internet, which is very low stakes and often insincere conflict, almost always less interesting.

but better analysis/thinking often grows out of the smoking ruins of relationships that needed to end haha

I also like to emphasize that most conflict is actually just bad communication or confusion in my experience, so when a heated discussion even manages to arrive at a genuine disagreement, that's an accomplishment! Cuz it's hard, you know? most conflict never even crystalizes like that.