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I don't know, that's a personal decision, and I've read different things different places... In Herman's trauma theory it's desirable to accuse or confront them in some way, even if you don't get closure from it, but this comes at the end of the healing process, after the memory's already integrated. In Klein the whole internal/external objects issue makes it complicated, often someone will want to harm the bad object but then they feel they've absorbed it or they've destroyed the good object as well. But there's also a strand of argument from people like Fanon where the act of standing up or fighting back is really important (although this is more in situations where the abuse is present/ongoing). So think through first why you want to speak out/hit back/etc, try to figure out which parts are pushing for it and which parts don't want to and why (there must be forces in both directions if you think about it but haven't done it), also what you're trying to achieve and how it might unfold.

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