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At some point, compare what form of harm is worse is not really productive.
Is ostracism better or worse than physical violence? I'm guessing depends on the intensity. When I was ostracized by my community, I spent three months in mental distress, under sedatives, dreaming of being beaten up instead. It had profoundly impacted my sense of belonging, in the spiritual and psychological sense of the term. But of course adverse experiences exist.

I do not believe that physical violence is just spectacle or just impressive. I am saying it is impressive and spectacular, but of course that's not all that. I don't say that to diminish it, I am just saying that, with most physical violence, you actually see the damage done. But bullies always like the specific forms of violence that are invisible. In my schoolyard, there was several techniques to hurt people without traces. Cops, too, like that.

There's a paper about it from David Graeber, maybe you would like it.

https://thebaffler.com/salvos/bullys-pulpit

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