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TotW: Figuring It Out: What happened; What to do

Inspired by a few things, including the Facebook supreme court thing (which is a private corporation setting up a tribunal that may or may not be independent but is trying to be, to oversee the private corporation and set standards that might have much wider ramifications), some not-anarchist drama that might as well be, and some past personal experiences--what do you think are the best/worst ways to a) gauge whether someone has done something that they deny doing, b) respond to said something, if it was in fact done?

While we all have our own kneejerk tendencies when hearing these stories, especially online, especially with people we don't know, we can all (I hope!) agree that there are people who are hurt needlessly by others, and there are people who are accused of things that they didn't do, and we will all, at some point in our lives, be put in the position to figure out how to know which is which, with people we actually know (perhaps even ourselves).

A) What are processes that have worked in your life when someone was accused (or not accused) of nefarious behavior, to determine what happened (or didn't happen)? What systems have you heard about or imagined that might work better than what you've actually experienced?

B) For the part of the conversation that is post-guilt-determination, let us get the obvious responses out of the way, because there are many that *are* obvious and so have little to teach us: direct physical confrontation by the survivor(s) or allies, spreading the story (aka rumor-mongering, for anyone who is too far afield), shaming of various sorts, ostracization, etc. Someone a couple weeks ago mentioned an instance of what we might call baby-sitting (not allowing the perpetrator to be alone with any potential victims). What are other options that prod one's imagination?