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I should do more to meet

I should do more to meet people, to go out and be proactive.
What I would do is go to places where I suspect I would meet the people I'd like to meet.
Places can be scouted using social media, or on the ground info
(lol, not word of mouth, I don't know anyone in those circles, if there's any).
I'd probably have to go a few times before getting to talk to someone or deciding that's not a good place to keep trying.
People that like to be more of an open book may display their affinities with a tshirt lol, but most of the time the signs that may indicate affinity will be more subtle I guess. If nothing preliminary can give pointers, then it will all come down to conversation.
This is simple enough.

In practice, it's difficult because isolation as a habit becomes ingrained.
I've become avoidant, which is the opposite reaching out, or approaching others, getting exposure.
I feel as if ashamed in general, and kind of fearing that it would show.
I fear they might tell I'm a little out of touch. It feels too bare.
Coming out of nowhere without a backstory, no clear goals or trajectory.
No stories to tell. Just feelings and opinions.
Not going out is also the stingy solution (excuse) for when you're broke.

When there's none of "your people" around, your people is whoever is there, whenever they're available.
You make do with that, and whoever you can chat to online.

I don't have plans of any sort.
It would require a big push or pull to overcome the inertia and relative comfort of staying, and compel me to move.
I like the people and the place where I'm at as a background, and I guess I'm part of the background too. Not engaging much.
It definitely has its pros and cons on paper. Definitely more people I could meet in a big city, but it's also costlier and you know pollution and noise and crowded.

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