Introductions: Hi, I'm Kelli and I'm an anarcha-feminist housewife and collared slave.
I didn't see an introduction thread - though I'm sure there probably is on, I'm just missing it - so I thought I'd start one since I just joined this forum myself.
I'm a 28-year-old anarcha-feminist living in rural Georgia, about 2 hours from Atlanta - (yep, the worst place for people like me: the Bible Belt). I've been happily married to an amazing man for going on 2 years now, which brings me to a touchy topic that I struggled with for awhile. I am both an outspoken, proud feminist, while at the same time I am in a dom/sub, daddy/daughter type marriage that involves being collared and submissive to my dominant husband.
A collared, feminist housewife slave. That's me: the walking contradiction! ^_^ In researching the subject of the rare breed of the "feminist housewife," I quickly realized that I don't really quite fit in with other feminists. Articles on sites like Jezebel are quick to disregard feminists who choose the conventional, stereotypical gender role of being a wife and mother over a career as "such bullshit." Here's an excerpt:
It's not a coincidence that one week after Sheryl Sandberg's Lean In gave feminism a much-needed reboot and sparked a national conversation about the innate gender biases that need to be dismantled so that professional women can achieve their full potential, New York Magazine pooped our party with an incendiary cover story about the "legions" of "feminist housewives" who're "having it all by choosing to stay home." Choosy feminists choose choice! And I'm choosing to roll my eyes.
Well now I've got two activist blogs: TAKE THE POWER BACK (Silence Can Be Violence), a blog I created after realizing a week after the incident that I'd been date raped, to raise awareness of the lesser known, less violent forms of sexual assault and rape (i.e. "gray rape") that tend to be dismissed and unnoticed by the general majority, (sometimes even by the victims themselves).
I also started The Feminist Housewife after being disappointed by the reaction of this type of feminism by fellow feminists themselves. It's my own small attempt at helping people realize that being both a feminist and a submissive in a BDSM master/slave relationship is just as valid as the next.
Anyway, just thought I'd post something about myself and my own individual brand of feminism. I'd love to hear opinions, both negative and positive, as well as something about the particular type of feminist ideals others live by.
- Kelli W. Gnossos